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SURROGATE TAPPING FOR PAST SELVES
Sue Stevenson, Ph.D.
Adapted from Silvia Hartmann's "IC Healing
Protocol" - 2/2002
Use the Emotional Freedom Technique to tap on
negative experiences, events, and troubling issues from different ages/stages of
your life.
During each age/stage tap on specific emotions -
anger, rage, grief, sadness, depression, anxiety, guilt, envy, remorse, regret,
rebellion, etc. "Even though
this self felt anger towards my dad for not being there for me, etc."
Tap on positive emotions that the self didn't get to
experience enough - happiness, joy, peace, emotional freedom, assertiveness,
safety, playfulness, etc.
You can ask that other compassionate, wise, or
loving parts of you tap too and assist those past selves that need the help.
You may have experienced an issue during more than
one period of time in your life. Tap
on them wherever they apply.
In order to gain additional material to tap on you
can look over pictures of yourself at different ages/stages and tap on what you
notice. For example, "Even
though this child was sad, etc."
You can apply each step of the Tapas Acupressure
Technique or Instant Be Set Free Fast to process the issues instead of tapping.
An optional step at each age/stage or with each
troubling event/issue is to heal any Post-Traumatic Stress (Be Set Free Fast).
"I now deeply and profoundly heal any Post-Traumatic Stress this
baby may have experienced including shock, trauma, stress, distress, upset,
disturbance, and bother to her/his system."
CONCEPTION
AND PREGNANCY
Possible
material to tap on:
Think about the baby self that was conceived.
What were the circumstances of conception?
What was going on in your parent's life during the
pregnancy?
Sense what might have been going on for you at this
time.
What were some statements you were told about for
this time period?
Even though this baby should never have been born, I
now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby was unwanted, I now deeply and
profoundly love, accept and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby's mother drank all through
pregnancy, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though it was said that this baby was born
under an unlucky star, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby's mother cried and grieved
when she found out about the baby, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome
this baby.
Even though this baby's mother was angry about
having this baby, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby.
Even though this baby caused her/his mother health
problems, I now deeply and profoundly forgive and love this baby.
Disconnected,
Separated, or Dissociated Parts:
Even though a part disconnected from me during this
time (because she/he felt unsafe or unwanted/unappreciated/unvalued), I now
deeply and profoundly love, appreciate, and welcome this part back.
Even though there may be other parts that played a
role in rejecting or keeping this part separated, I now deeply and profoundly
love and forgive these other parts.
I now deeply and profoundly heal this part from all
wounds she/he might have sustained.
I now deeply and profoundly heal any other part(s)
that may have rejected this part or that may have had anything to do with this
parts separation.
Be specific in the wording if you know the event or
experience in which a part may have disconnected. For example, "Even though a part disconnected from me
during kindergarten/the first time I was abused, etc."
Repeat this step wherever it may apply.
Install:
I now deeply and completely heal this baby.
I now allow this baby to have all that she/he needs
to be happy and healthy and to thrive.
Imagine this baby self in the womb receiving all
that is positive (based upon what was initially tapped on - "This baby now
receives and embraces luck, acceptance, protection, love, wholeness,
etc.").
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood and into the present and the
future as a result of having received what you needed.
BIRTH
Possible
material to tap on:
What stories were you told about your birth?
Do you have a feeling or sense how things were for
you and your parents then?
Even though this baby caused her/his mother so much
pain and suffering, I now deeply and profoundly forgive and love this baby.
Even though this baby was born too early, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this baby.
Even though this baby nearly died, I now deeply and
profoundly love and accept this baby.
Install:
I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from all
wounds she/he might have sustained at the time of birth.
Imagine this baby receiving all that she/he needed
at the time of birth.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood, and into the present and
future as a result of receiving what you needed.
0-6
MONTHS
Possible
material to tap on:
What do you know about how you were cared for?
Did you receive what you needed in terms of material
care and nurturing?
What stories have you been told about this time in
your life?
Do you sense that you were able to develop trust at
this time?
Even though this baby never received enough love and
attention, I now deeply and profoundly love this baby.
Even though this baby needed so much love and
attention, I now deeply and profoundly forgive and love this baby.
Even though this baby was left alone, I now deeply
and profoundly love and embrace this baby.
Even though this baby was so helpless, I now deeply
and profoundly love and accept responsibility for this baby.
Even though this baby was always screaming, I now
deeply and profoundly love and nurture this baby.
Even though this baby hurt from colic, I now deeply
and profoundly love and nourish this baby.
Even though this baby didn't feel wanted, I deeply
and profoundly love and cherish this baby.
Even though this baby had a mother and father who
were too busy to care for her/him, I deeply and profoundly love and accept this
baby.
Even though this baby was yelled at, I deeply and
profoundly love and accept this baby.
Install:
I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from the
wounds she/he has sustained at that fragile time.
Imagine this self receiving all that she/he needed
at this time along with the positive results.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood and into the present and
future as a result of having received what you needed.
6
MONTHS - 2 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What do you know about your caretaker's discipline
of you at this time?
What kind of child were you told you were?
How did toilet training go?
What rules were you given then that may impact your
life today?
Even though this child was not allowed to explore
and be curious, I now deeply and profoundly love and encourage this child.
Even though this child was ignored, I now deeply and
profoundly acknowledge and love this child.
Even though this child was overwhelmed by the world,
I now deeply and profoundly love and take responsibility for this child.
Even though this child was pushed on way too fast, I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was not allowed to be angry,
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child could not do anything right,
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was criticized and yelled at,
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Install:
I now heal this child, deeply and profoundly, from
all the injuries it sustained during this time of life.
I now allow myself to fully and completely receive
all the (compassion, acceptance, love, etc.) that I need.
Imagine the child receiving all that she/he needed
at this time along with the positive results. (compassion, acceptance, love,
patience, guidance)
You may also imagine the child growing up with all
that she/he needed, on up into the present.
Future Pace-Imagine yourself in the future as one
who has what you need, fully and completely.
2
YEARS - 6 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What was the experience of school like for you
during this time?
What may your experiences with siblings have been
like?
Do you have a feeling or sense of what you thought
about yourself, your identity, and your place in the world?
Even though this child was a girl, I now deeply and
profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was not valued as a girl, I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was said to have been (a
problem, difficult, etc.), I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this
child.
Even though this child was abused (physically,
emotionally, sexually), I now deeply and profoundly love and treasure this
child.
Even though this child was not protected, I now
deeply and profoundly love and nurture this child.
Even though this child was not believed, I now
deeply and profoundly love and honor this child.
Even though this child was slow to learn, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was different, I now deeply
and profoundly love and treasure this child.
Even though this child was treated badly, I now
deeply and profoundly love and nurture this child.
Even though this child was very afraid, I now deeply
and profoundly love and care for this child.
Install:
I now heal all the injuries (mental, physical,
sexual, emotional) this child sustained during this time, deeply and profoundly,
with my love.
Imagine this child receiving all that she/he needed
at this time along with the positive impact. (protection, nurturing, acceptance,
love, etc.)
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood and into the present and
future as a result of having received what you needed.
7
YEARS - 10 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What experiences did you have in school?
What were your experiences with siblings and friends
like?
What were your struggles?
Even though this child was bullied and pushed
around, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child's caretakers didn't take the
time to be with this child, I now deeply and profoundly love and nurture this
child.
Even though this child's caretakers didn't take the
time to talk with her/him, listen to her/him, I now deeply and profoundly love
and accept this child.
Even though this child had a hard time in school
(failed/got F's), I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child felt helpless and alone, I
now deeply and profoundly love and nurture this child.
Even though this child had a hard time making
friends and getting accepted, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this
child.
Even though this child had difficulty because she/he
moved a lot, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though other kids (fill in the blank), I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child's father (fill in the blank),
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child's mother (fill in the blank),
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child felt (fill in the blank), I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though siblings (fill in the blank), I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though teachers (fill in the blank), I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child couldn't (fill in the blank),
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was told she/he would be just
like (name of person), I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was told she/he would never
(fill in the blank), I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Install:
I now heal all the injuries and issues this child
sustained during this time.
Imagine this child receiving all that she/he needed
along with the positive impact.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood and into the present and
future as a result of having received what you needed.
11
YEARS - 14 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What was your physical and sexual development
progress?
What were your experiences with the opposite sex?
What were friendships like?
What was your relationship with each parent like at
this time?
What were your relationships with siblings like?
What were your experiences in school like?
Even though this child developed so fast, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child developed so slowly, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was immature for her/his age,
I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child got unwanted attention
because of her/his body, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child couldn't fit in, I now deeply
and profoundly love and accept this child.
Even though this child was teased, I now deeply and
profoundly love and accept this child.
Install:
I now heal all the injuries and issues this child
experienced during this time.
Imagine this child receiving all that she/he needed
along with the positive impact.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your childhood and into the present and
future as a result of having received what you needed.
15
YEARS - 18 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
Did you have sexual experiences and what were they
like?
What were your experiences with the opposite sex?
What were your experiences with drugs like?
What were your struggles in school like?
What were your friendships like?
Did you have struggles/conflicts with others?
What were the mistakes you might have made at this
time?
Even though this young adult made mistakes, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this young adult made unhelpful
decisions about drugs (friends, sexual partners, risky behaviors), I now deeply
and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this young adult felt rejected, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this young adult didn't fit in, I now
deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Install:
I now heal all the injuries this young adult
sustained during this time.
Imagine this self receiving all that she/he needed
at that time and notice the results.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your life and into the future as a result
of having received what you needed.
19
YEARS - 39 YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What were your job experiences like?
Review the negative experiences.
What were your relationships like - partners,
friends, and family?
What situations do you not want to think about?
What subjects or emotions do you avoid most?
Even though this self had failed relationships, I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this self was fired, let go from jobs, I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this self felt
betrayed/abandoned/rejected/hurt by (person's name), I now deeply and profoundly
love and accept this self.
Even though this self didn't think she/he would ever
forgive (person's name) for (specific behavior), I now deeply and profoundly
love and forgive this self.
Even though this self didn't want to take
responsibility for her/his part in (situation/event), I now deeply and
profoundly love, accept and forgive this self.
Install:
I now heal all the injuries and issues these younger
selves experienced during this time period.
Imagine these selves receiving all that they needed
during this time period.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout the rest of your life and into the future
as a result of having received what you needed.
40+
YEARS
Possible
material to tap on:
What are your thoughts and feelings about aging and
death?
Have there been disappointments in your life?
Even though this self disliked the changes in
her/his body with age, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this self was afraid of growing older, I
now deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this self still grieves over the loss of
(names of friends, loved ones), I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this
self.
Even though this self is still angry with (person's
name) for (situation/event/behavior), I now deeply and profoundly love and
accept this self.
Even though this self still holds onto (specify), I
now deeply and profoundly accept and forgive this self.
Even though this self grieved over the loss of
her/his youth, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this self.
Even though this self didn't accomplish all that
she/he wanted to, I now deeply and completely love and accept this self.
Install:
I now heal all of the injuries and issues this self
sustained during this time period.
Imagine this self receiving all that she/he needed
along with the positive impact of receiving that.
Optional: Imagine
the positive consequences throughout your life and into the future as a result
of having received what you needed.
Current
Parts of the Self
Possible
material to tap on:
Think about any internal conflicts you have now.
For example, "One part of me wants to lose weight but another part
keeps prompting me to overeat."
Are there any goals you can't seem to accomplish?
Do you have any habits you can't seem to shake?
Even though a part of me doesn't want me to stop
eating donuts, I now love, accept, and forgive this part.
I know this part wants something positive for me as a result of eating
donuts.
Even though a part of me thinks I need the extra
weight for protection for some reason, I now love and appreciate this part.
The safe, adult part of me that knows I am protected no matter what now
showers the other part with all the safety and protection I need even with a
trim, healthy body.
Imagine the safe, adult self showering the other
part with protection. Notice the
part receiving all that she/he needs to feel protected while having a healthy
body.
Even though a part of me keeps stopping me from
(goal), I now love, appreciate, and forgive this part.
Install:
I now allow all parts of me to have access to
(emotion or state).
I now heal all the injuries and issues that have
ever led up to this problem.
Imagine yourself achieving your goal.
Imagine all of the positive emotions, behaviors, and thoughts that go
along with having your goal. Imagine
this in the present and in the future.
What does having this goal now allow you to
experience/have/be in other areas of your life?
I now choose to embrace all of my Selves, past,
present, and future. I now
acknowledge that all of my Selves contribute to my wholeness.
I now
choose to embrace all of my past experiences knowing that I learn from them all
and I am better for them.
Sue Stevenson, Ph.D.
Littleton, Colorado
uestevensonphd@msn.com
Adapted from Silvia
Hartmann's "IC Healing Protocol" - 2/2002
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